This is part 2 of a BDSM FAQ written by C.K. Egbert for the Feminist Current. It expresses excellently why radfems are against BDSM and why the common arguments for BDSM don’t hold water.
“But BDSM has such great standards of consent!”
Ongoing and affirmative consent involves explicit expression or active participation throughout the entire encounter. Affirmative consent means that there is not coercion, pressuring, or manipulation, and that both partners are emotionally and physically able to communicate (including their desire to stop, if that happens). Importantly, affirmative consent helps us understand non-abusive sex as sex that is wanted and not simply endured. But this is not the standard of consent used in BDSM relationships. Consent in BDSM instead appears to be based on the idea of contract agreement and lack of active resistance.
First, affirmative and ongoing consent is precluded by the practice itself of dominating or controlling another…
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